tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13641764.post112307315093541866..comments2023-11-03T09:23:03.895-04:00Comments on Hard To Want: Gay PerceptionScotthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13323167263283798566noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13641764.post-1123093159373008742005-08-03T14:19:00.000-04:002005-08-03T14:19:00.000-04:00You're right Mr T, we can only guide, and at some ...You're right Mr T, we can only guide, and at some point we take the leap of faith. I just want my children to be happy, I just hope I don't decide how for them.<BR/><BR/>Dixie - Thanks for the advice. I've been writing my most recent entries in the journalling section of Writer's Cafe, then transferring it over so that I have a copy. But some of the older stuff could still get lost.Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13323167263283798566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13641764.post-1123092964252604872005-08-03T14:16:00.000-04:002005-08-03T14:16:00.000-04:00Another excellent story, Scott. You need to print...Another excellent story, Scott. You need to print off your blog and keep it so if something happens to this server, your stuff won't be lost.Dixie Bellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11501418825534384788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13641764.post-1123092917020569842005-08-03T14:15:00.000-04:002005-08-03T14:15:00.000-04:00You know when did being gay become a concern for p...You know when did being gay become a concern for parents... When did it become something on par with a disease or something that "happens" to people. "Did you hear about toby... yeah, he got gay." "Well I hope he had clean underwear on"<BR/><BR/>I worry about it but only because of the stigmata it carries. I'm certainly entertaining Mrs T's idea that it would take the worry of pregnancies but that's not a good reason to hope for. It would be better to just raise the children up proper and let the cards fall where they may because at the end of the day, thats about all I can do. I tell my kids this all the time.. "I can't make you do anything, I can only guide you to be decent human beings... its up to you to CHOOSE to the right path." And its the truth.. I could beat them, and brainwash them all I wanted.. ultimately its their decisions that will make them who they are. And as we read about Scott's life we found out how true that is. Despite your father, Scott, you made the better choices that made you the man you are now.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for another glimpse into Scott.Mr. Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16881870850519509380noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13641764.post-1123092489813569252005-08-03T14:08:00.000-04:002005-08-03T14:08:00.000-04:00Tee - Congrats, good parents seem to be hard to co...Tee - Congrats, good parents seem to be hard to come by these days. I think this generation is better than the last in that regard. We seem to empathise more with the kids.Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13323167263283798566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13641764.post-1123090721581687192005-08-03T13:38:00.000-04:002005-08-03T13:38:00.000-04:00That's awesome that you were able to form your own...That's awesome that you were able to form your own opinions. I feel badly for people who are ignorant - they just don't know better because that's how they were raised. I have really good parents and I'm thankful everyday.<BR/><BR/>That was an excellent story!Tee/Tracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01213584316807112321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13641764.post-1123088734554466482005-08-03T13:05:00.000-04:002005-08-03T13:05:00.000-04:00Thanks Mr. Schrock - I've left out inflammatory wo...Thanks Mr. Schrock - I've left out inflammatory words before, and here I pulled the trigger. Otherwise, the flavor is lost.Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13323167263283798566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13641764.post-1123087801444783742005-08-03T12:50:00.000-04:002005-08-03T12:50:00.000-04:00"I thought about leaving the N word out."Glad you ..."I thought about leaving the N word out."<BR/><BR/>Glad you didn't. I don't think anyone would have been offended by your use of it. I thought it was an awesome line to end the story.mr. schprockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16216294034597931274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13641764.post-1123084634530519912005-08-03T11:57:00.000-04:002005-08-03T11:57:00.000-04:00Mrs T - I'm glad that your mom didn't freak out, a...Mrs T - I'm glad that your mom didn't freak out, and let you be the person you were inside, but hopefully for the right reasons, other than drug induced apathy, right?<BR/><BR/>Jen - That's why I named my blog Hard to Want. I wanted to tell some of these kinds of stories. I'm glad that you have your beliefs and that you would call me out if necessary. That's the spice of life.Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13323167263283798566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13641764.post-1123084323897587362005-08-03T11:52:00.000-04:002005-08-03T11:52:00.000-04:00*smiles* that is one of the things about me, hones...*smiles* that is one of the things about me, honesty. I hate intolerence and will call on it if I see it. I had to ask the question and you answered. <BR/><BR/>Racism is a fact of life and will not go away. Trying to understand where it comes from is almost futile. But if there are people like yourself Scott that can open up and change their course and upbringing, then there is hope. The hope that you are raising your children to be diverse and well educated. It appears to me, from all of your entries and stories, that you do not take life lightly and have learned from the past. Not peeved but just a bit surprised at the pure honesty of this post.jenbeautyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07304789117482763021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13641764.post-1123083387758673102005-08-03T11:36:00.000-04:002005-08-03T11:36:00.000-04:00Jen - Thanks! I thought maybe you we're a little ...Jen - Thanks! I thought maybe you we're a little peeved.<BR/><BR/>Angelle - I thought about leaving the N word out. It actually hurts to say it or type it, so it was a real risk on my part to include it. I don't want to be branded a racist, it's simply where I came from, and the word was thrown about quite liberally, as many, and I would venture to say a majority of midwesterners have probably experienced. <BR/><BR/>MB - Yeah, growing up with that kind of talk and thinking has a repulsive effect, and parents forget that we have minds too, that we can think on our own. Eventually we have to get away.Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13323167263283798566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13641764.post-1123083119306224782005-08-03T11:31:00.000-04:002005-08-03T11:31:00.000-04:00Scott-You're absolutely right that it's a waste of...Scott-<BR/>You're absolutely right that it's a waste of time to hate people you don't know. The more hateful people are the more isolated they become. I've noticed that similar to your story, a lot of parents who teach their kids to hate end up having kids that aren't very impressed with their parents. I'm glad you went out into the world and exposed yourself to different cultures causing you to form your own opinions despite the ones your parents tried to impose upon you.Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05344778775085687558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13641764.post-1123082434246884092005-08-03T11:20:00.000-04:002005-08-03T11:20:00.000-04:00I like your story here. Very down to earth and I ...I like your story here. Very down to earth and I can feel the main character's crush with other girls, etc. I also find the ending a bit shocking (the N word), but at the same time very fitting and illuminating because it says so much about your characters and the world they live in.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13641764.post-1123080339946159572005-08-03T10:45:00.000-04:002005-08-03T10:45:00.000-04:00Scott it takes a lot to admit short comings. Glad...Scott it takes a lot to admit short comings. Glad to hear you were able to open yourself up to diversity. <BR/><BR/>I still get pretty appalled at prejudices that happen. I have a brother in law that can be pretty racist as well as an uncle. It really drives me batty and I let them know I will not listen to it. <BR/><BR/>Judging people by who there are as a person is the most important.jenbeautyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07304789117482763021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13641764.post-1123078035527969892005-08-03T10:07:00.000-04:002005-08-03T10:07:00.000-04:00Knitter, how often does that situation play out in...Knitter, how often does that situation play out in life, huh? It's such a waste of time hating people you don't even know. I base how I feel about someone on what I know about them.Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13323167263283798566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13641764.post-1123077906051414312005-08-03T10:05:00.000-04:002005-08-03T10:05:00.000-04:00Everybody thinks they left it behind. For me it w...Everybody thinks they left it behind. For me it was a lot of work, with the help of a few good friends that pointed out my shortcomings. I moved to San Francisco and lived there for twelve years, and was exposed to great diversity, which widened the chasm between me and my father.Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13323167263283798566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13641764.post-1123077673565061892005-08-03T10:01:00.000-04:002005-08-03T10:01:00.000-04:00I grew up with a racist father. He was a bigot as...I grew up with a racist father. He was a bigot as well. Both his sons turned out to be gay. Go figure. =)Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17335415338155220244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13641764.post-1123075809206315962005-08-03T09:30:00.000-04:002005-08-03T09:30:00.000-04:00Very frank and up front about how you grew up. We...Very frank and up front about how you grew up. Were you able to leave those prejudices behind, with your father?jenbeautyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07304789117482763021noreply@blogger.com